I love the internet. Truly, I do. For all the negative crap we see and hear and hatred that is spewed in its general direction and the corners that hide dark secrets, I love it. However, the people on it? Not so much. We are a generation of ‘keyboard courage’ – the people who are usually too afraid to say boo to a goose and yet spit vitriol at just about anything because they can hide cowardice behind a keyboard.
We read article after article throughout the internet telling us about the kind of friends that we should and shouldn’t keep, what men and women really want in relationships and foods that will either kill us or make us live until we’re 100 and you know what? I can’t help but feel it’s all a load of shit (just like this website) with everyone telling each other what to do, think and say.
You see, it’s all opinion at the end of the day; not fact. Everything I write on here are MY thoughts and opinions – some of you will agree with them and others won’t but I will try my best not to preach or make you feel like I’m telling you what to do which I think therein lies the difference between some sites and books etc. I know that my words are just that – words. They are advice to be read and received or ignored but it’s entirely up to you. I’m not going to condemn you if you love chocolate a bit too much (there are definitely worse things in life) but likewise I might not be able to keep my opinion to myself if I think you’re talking crap about someone unnecessarily.
When we have difficult decisions to make, we naturally ask for help and peoples opinions but then allow them to dictate how we feel and what we do because we see them as directions instead of advice. We get weighed down with the ‘should’ of the opinion instead of thanking people for the advice and making our own decisions. We feel that by going ‘against’ the opinions and advice we receive is somehow wrong which leads us to feelings of guilt when nothing could be further from the truth.
It’s incredibly hard when we’re struggling with a decision to make and we have no clear mental direction because we can then give opinions too much strength and we can ask for too many of them which simply leaves us feeling confused about which one to ‘follow’. We need to think of opinions as ingredients for a recipe – we take a pinch from here, a cup from there and eventually we make something edible.
It’s not easy ignoring people’s advice and opinion especially when it comes from people we respect or we have asked them for it in the first place but sometimes, hearing one opinion makes you realise how much you don’t want something as opposed to how much you do. It takes strength to listen to someone’s opinion and go in the opposite direction, particularly when you feel lost or unsure of your decision in the first place but we must remember that opinions aren’t facts, just words. We cannot choose what people say but we can choose what we take on board and what we leave behind.
Every man has a right to his own opinion, but no man has a right to be wrong in his facts – Bernard M Baruch